This qualitative study examines how mid-life gay and lesbian married individuals articulate their decision to marry. Using data from 30 mid-life couples in Massachusetts, this study challenges previous literature that conceptualized marriage as entirely positive or negative for same-sex individuals. Mid-life individuals' unique social and historical context influence their experiences of marriage, as mid-life individuals have witnessed the rise and feasibility of marriage equality, have formed relationships outside of the bounds of marriage, and have been in committed relationships long before they married. Using the framework of ambivalence, our findings provide three main contributions to the literature. First, we show that marital ambivalence is a common experience in our sample.
Ask a Queer Chick: I’m a Lesbian and Married to a Man I Don’t Love. What Do I Do?
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I married my husband for many fabulous reasons, but sexual satisfaction wasn't one of them. During this past summer I had what I would call a sexual awakening. After reading the "The 50 Shades of Grey" trilogy it was as if my libido had finally awoken after 20 years and I had the sex drive of a year-old boy. The desire to be with a woman was all I could think about and so I went for it.
At 50, I was finally able to admit to myself that I was a lesbian. I have been married for over 25 years and have a daughter, My marriage has been a martyrdom, as I have no desire. I have always been attracted to women, but never had the courage to accept it.
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