Q: So I've been dating this girl for a little over a month and during that time we didn't have sex. I was a bit peeved but hey, sometimes slow and steady can win the race. In this case I thought she was worth it—she's a babe and we really hit it off. Anyway last night she told me the reason we haven't had sex was she had the herp.
Herpes | Symptoms, Testing & Treatment | Ending HIV
Getting diagnosed with herpes is a bit like someone shoved a broom handle through the spokes of your bike when you were cruising along smoothly—suddenly the world is upside-down and everything hurts and it feels like strangers are laughing at you even though the street is empty and there is no one there to see you licking your wounds on the pavement. You are still you. You are still the person you were yesterday, before you were diagnosed. The people who love you most in this world, the people who know you to your core , will continue to love you.
Herpes is a fairly common sexually transmitted infection amongst gay guys in Australia. When you develop a sore, the immune system tries to heal it, so there are many immune cells concentrated in that spot. Those are the cells that HIV infects.
Image via Shutterstock. I used to live above this bar on Dundas Street. One night I was getting home late, a little drunk and very sad. I was in the midst of a mini-breakup and suffering from some acute loneliness, throwing out drunken prayers to the Gods of mirth and madness for absolution.